09/01/20 MENTAL HEALTH AND FAMILY.
As a fellow sufferer for many years of both Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder; combined with being Bipolar for over 30years of my existence (seemingly in remission). When engrossed so deeply in your own thoughts, we do not, appreciate those around or surrounding us.
For it is they, not you that due to different behaviour, become more aware of your problems other than yourself. Mental Health can strike anyone at anytime and maybe it is years before the incident that cause the deterioration occurs much later in life and comes to the surface.
Whilst in the depths, being told to pull yourself together does not assist. The stiff upper lip approach, died out as I World War II veterans are doing now. Life for those in combat remains harsh, yet awareness now by the various Forces, at least now prepared to appreciate that battle fatigue, loss of limb etc. creates issues beyond many people’s comprehension.
Thanks to my Grand-father, my Father and many (thankfully) generations have not had to endure such horrors. It is often used however, by counsellors referring to Mental Health issues, “That an invisible broken leg exists, that no other can see, but that leg creates so much pain” Time and again pushing up and forward attempting to be what you can be and feeling as though failing again (as you think you are, even it that i: completely wrong).
Those same counsellors will advise rest and walk away. Frequently, even if you hardly move off the sofa, it is a natural self-survival tactic where you can confront no-one only ones-self "your leg still in pain". The closest, that I get to common prayer, when low is this piece of prose Desiderata by Max Ehrmann maybe it will help.
Go placidly amid the noise and haste and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.
And whether it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore, be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him or Her to be. And whatever your labours and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
BY MAX EHRMANN
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